Mind Games: Understanding Manipulation, Conflict and Control

Overview

Uncover the unseen psychological forces that drive manipulation, control, and conflict. This interactive course explores how thoughts and emotions are transformed into behaviours that can divide, destabilise, and challenge even the strongest of teams and relationships.

Through practical examples and discussion, you’ll examine behaviours such as gaslighting, triangulation, paltering, reverse psychology, and exploitation, and learn how these patterns lead to escalating conflict. You’ll also discover how to recognize, interpret, and manage these dynamics before they spiral.

Ideal for anyone who needs to navigate complex interpersonal situations, this course offers the insight and strategies needed to understand the darker sides of human behaviour, and to transform conflict into clarity.

This course is part of the Inspiring Oxford summer school programme, held at Brasenose College.

Programme details

Daily schedule

After registration on Sunday afternoon, we invite you to a welcome meeting in the Amersi Lecture Theatre in New Quad, where you will meet your tutors. Join us in Deer Park afterwards for our opening drinks reception, followed by dinner in Brasenose’s historic dining hall (informal dress).

Seminars take place on weekday mornings. Most afternoons are free, allowing you time to explore Oxford, enjoy a variety of optional social events (see details below), or to sit back and relax in one of the college's atmospheric quads.

Your course culminates on Friday evening with a closing drinks reception and gala farewell dinner at which Certificates of Attendance are awarded. For this special occasion smart dress is encouraged (no requirement to wear dinner suits or gowns).

Social programme 

We warmly invite all Inspiring Oxford students to take part in our optional social programme, with all events provided at no additional cost. Events are likely to include:

  • Croquet on the quad
  • Chauffeured punting from Magdalen Bridge
  • Expert-led walking tours of Oxford
  • Optional visit to an Oxford Library or the Ashmolean Museum
  • River Thames afternoon cruise
  • Quiz night in the college bar
  • Scottish country dance evening (where you do the dancing!)

Seminars

Monday

Introduction to the Dark Triad and Dark Psychology

Begin the week with an exploration of the Dark Triad, narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy, and discover how these traits underpin dark psychological behaviours. We discuss how thoughts and emotions are transformed into actions aimed at manipulating, influencing, and controlling others. You will gain an understanding of how these traits emerge in both personal and professional contexts, and why they are often linked to toxic environments.

Through interactive discussion and reflection, you’ll start developing the awareness needed to recognise dark psychological patterns and understand their role in creating and sustaining conflict.

Tuesday

Manipulation and Paltering

Today we focus on two subtle but powerful tools of psychological influence: manipulation and paltering. We define these terms and explore how they are used to gain advantage, distort perception, and undermine trust.

You’ll examine real-world examples and communication patterns, identifying how small distortions of truth can shape behaviour and decision-making. Practical exercises will help you spot manipulative tactics in conversation and media, while learning strategies to respond assertively and protect integrity in your interactions.

Wednesday

Gaslighting and Exploitation

Delve deeper into gaslighting and exploitation, two of the most psychologically damaging behaviours in the dark psychology spectrum. You’ll learn how gaslighting erodes confidence, distorts reality, and weakens resilience, while exploitation leverages vulnerability for control or personal gain.

Through case examples and guided analysis, we’ll explore how these behaviours manifest in relationships, leadership, and organisations, and how to rebuild confidence after being targeted. You will gain tools to recognise early warning signs, maintain self-trust, and create boundaries that protect against such manipulation.

Thursday

Triangulation and Conflict

Today, we turn theory into application. Through real-life case studies, we analyse how triangulation, the act of pulling a third party into a conflict to destabilise relationships, fuels dysfunction in teams and organisations.

We’ll study the psychological mechanisms behind conflict escalation, examining how dark personality traits distort group dynamics. You’ll work through interactive exercises to diagnose sources of conflict, understand power imbalances, and practise strategies to de-escalate and restore communication.

Friday

Reverse Psychology, Confidence Reversal, and Power Dynamics

On our final day, we explore the complex interplay between reverse psychology, confidence reversal, and power zones in conflict. We examine how these tactics manipulate perception and control outcomes, often shifting power subtly between individuals or groups.

You will learn to map power dynamics, understand psychological triggers in conflict, and practise techniques for regaining equilibrium and authority in challenging situations.

We conclude with a reflective session, integrating the week’s insights, and look at how you might apply your new understanding of dark psychology to manage conflict with clarity, confidence, and emotional intelligence.

Certification

Certificate of Attendance

At the end of the course you will receive a Certificate of Attendance.

Digital badge

You will also be issued with an official digital badge of attendance. After the course, you will receive an email with a link and instructions on how to download this. You will be able to share this on social media and add to your email signature if you wish to do so.

Fees

Description Costs
Fee option 1 (single en suite accom and meals per person) £2625.00
Fee option 2 (single standard accom and meals per person) £2275.00
Fee option 3 (twin en suite accom and meals per person) £2435.00
Fee option 4 (no accom; incl lunch and dinner per person) £1855.00

Funding

Please note there are no sources of funding (scholarships, bursaries, etc) available for the Inspiring Oxford Summer School programme.

Payment

All fees are charged on a per week, per person basis

Included in the course fee:

  • Any included excursions (see programme details above) and the full optional social programme.
  • Breakfasts Monday-Saturday (residential guests only), five weekday lunches, and dinners Sunday-Friday. If your course includes a full-day field trip, a packed lunch is normally provided.
  • Morning refreshments and the welcome and closing drinks receptions.

Participants attending multiple weeks

Residential participants staying at Brasenose College for consecutive weeks may arrange an additional Saturday night bed-and-breakfast between courses, available for an additional fee. Please  email inspiringoxford@conted.ox.ac.uk to arrange this.

Payment terms

  • If enrolling online: full payment by credit/debit card at the time of booking.
  • If submitting an enrolment form: full payment online by credit/debit card or via bank transfer within 30 days of invoice date.

Please be aware that all payments (and refunds) made via non-UK credit/debit cards and bank accounts are subject to the exchange rate on the day they are processed.

Course change administration fee

Please note that course transfers may be permitted in exceptional circumstances at the discretion of the Programme Administrator, up to 1 May 2026; however, in accordance with our terms and conditions for our open access courses, an administration fee of £50 will be charged.​

Cancellations and refunds

Please see the terms and conditions for our open-access courses.

The Department cannot be held responsible for any costs you may incur in relation to travel or accommodation bookings as a result of a course cancellation, or if you are unable to attend the course for any other reason. You are advised to check the terms and conditions carefully and to purchase travel insurance.

Tutor

Sean Heneghan - Tutor

Sean runs his own HR/Coaching Consultancy individuals, teams and organisations to identify and develop their potential. 

Prior to establishing his HR/Coaching Consultancy, Sean worked as an operations manager within one of the UK’s largest retailers. After taking his MSc in Organisational Psychology and then his degree in Coaching, Sean worked with a leading Training and Development organisation. Sean was able to utilise his skills in psychometric testing, leadership and development before working with this organisation in Europe and Asia at a senior level with directors and senior teams.     

Since 2003, Sean has worked across private, Public and voluntary sectors helping them to transmit ideas into actions. He has trained/coached and worked alongside managers and directors within all three sectors enabling them to recognise/work with and be aware of working practices at the highest level. This has enabled them to improve within their area of operation and own performance.  

His training and coaching have extended across –Automotive, banking, finance, operations, I.T. and H.R., Public sector, NHS, transport, logistics, contact centre, leasing, Local and National Government and voluntary sector; charities. 

Sean is a Senior Associate Tutor-Research Leadership-Oxford University 

Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society 

Chartered Organisational Psychologist 

Accredited European Test User Certificate 

MSc Degree in Organisational Psychology-UMIST  

BSc Degree in Psychology 

Member of the British Psychological Society coaching section    

Member of European Mentoring and Coaching Council       

Experienced and qualified user of all psychometric tests

Teaching methods

Participants will be taught in seminar groups of up to 16 people.

Teaching methods used during this course may include:

  • Short lectures/presentations
  • Seminars/group discussions
  • Physical handouts
  • Student presentations
  • Written in-class exercises
  • Video recordings

Application

Registration closes on 29 May 2026 at 2pm BST (UK time).

If your preferred course is fully booked, you may wish to add yourself to the waiting list and the Programme Administrator will contact you should a place become available.

Online enrolment (single person accommodation and non-residential)

Single person accommodation and non-residential places should be booked online by clicking on the 'Book now' button at the top of this page. Please do not complete an enrolment form for these. 

If you have any trouble booking online, please contact the Programme Administrator by emailing inspiringoxford@conted.ox.ac.uk.

Online enrolments require payment in full at the time of registering.

Single bedroom options:

  • Single en suite: private bathroom facilities (shower, washbasin and toilet).
  • Standard single: private bedroom with shared bathroom facilities (typically shared among four participants).

Enrolment form (multi-occupancy or accessible accommodation)

Twin bedrooms

Those requiring a twin en-suite room (for two people) should complete an enrolment form as these rooms cannot be booked or requested online. Please note these rooms have limited availability. 

If requesting a twin room, each person should complete an enrolment form and name the other person who they wish to share a room with. 

Ground/lower floor accommodation

Brasenose rooms do not have lift access, and the higher rooms can be located up a few flights of stairs. If you need a room on a ground or lower floor please complete an enrolment form and indicate your requirements, or contact the Programme Administrator directly at inspiringoxford@conted.ox.ac.uk as soon as possible. 

Enrolment form

The enrolment form is an editable PDF and can be completed electronically, so you should not need to print and scan it. 

Completed forms should be sent:

  • by email to inspiringoxford@conted.ox.ac.uk, or

  • by post to Inspiring Oxford, Oxford Lifelong Learning, University of Oxford Department for Continuing Education, 1 Wellington Square, OXFORD, OX1 2JA, UK.

Level and demands

The Inspiring Oxford programme is aimed at non-specialists: no prior knowledge is required, and classes are pitched at an introductory level. Courses are designed for an international audience aged 18 and over.

There are no assessments for this course.

Accommodation

Residential options are outlined below.

Please see the 'application' section above for guidance on how to book or request the right accommodation for you, including how to request a lower/ground floor room.

The course fee includes breakfasts Monday-Saturday (residential guests only), five weekday lunches, and dinners Sunday-Friday. All meals included are served in Brasenose College's dining hall. If your course includes a full-day field trip, a packed lunch is normally provided.

Accommodation options at Brasenose

During your course, for an authentic Oxford University experience you can stay in typical student accommodation at Brasenose College, in the heart of the city in buildings overlooked by the iconic Radcliffe Camera. 

Please note that bedrooms are student rooms. They are simply and modestly-furnished and do not have air-conditioning. You can find out more about Brasenose and its facilities by visiting their website.

The following types of accommodation are available. 

  • Single en suite: private bathroom facilities (shower, washbasin and toilet).
  • Twin en suite: shared between participants that apply to the programme together, with private bathroom facilities.
  • Standard single: private bedroom with shared bathroom facilities (typically shared among four participants).

Non-residential option

Prefer not to stay on site? We also offer places on a non-residential basis whereby participants can take classes and have lunch and dinner at Brasenose College, having arranged their own accommodation elsewhere. Breakfast is not included.

Non-residential participants are warmly encouraged to take part in every aspect of the academic and social programme and enjoy the same access to Brasenose facilities as residential participants.

Participants attending multiple weeks

We welcome students who want to attend multiple Inspiring Oxford courses. Residential participants staying at Brasenose College for consecutive weeks may arrange an additional Saturday night bed-and-breakfast between courses, available for an additional fee. This option ensures a seamless and enjoyable stay in Oxford.

Accommodation before/after your course

We are unable to arrange accommodation at Brasenose College prior to or following your course. Please visit universityrooms.com if you require additional nights of bed and breakfast accommodation, and they may be able to assist.

Additionally, family or friends who are not enrolled in the programme cannot be accommodated in college.